I really struggle with what I wanted to say and if I wanted to say anything at at but if I post something and someone comments 'lol' or 'omg' or something silly I'm just glad they liked what I was posting! It's a frickin compliment! I was peeved by your first posting, but your response when someone complained was ridiculous, they were upset and try to explain calmly an concisely, and you got so angry over it! I am not going to unfollow you, but thanks for pretending to care about your followers
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I really wish you’d sent this message non-anon, because I’d really prefer to keep this conversation private. First and foremost, how dare you insinuate that I don’t care about my followers. That’s deeply hurtful to me, because I try very hard to be helpful and nice to anyone who messages me, etc. The response to the original reblog was ridiculous and over the top and I had a strong response to it. That’s why I put it under a cut. It wasn’t intended to be an angry rant (and I don’t think it came off that way), but to get my point across. I stand by what I said and I don’t think it was inappropriate at all. 

That’s completely fine if you don’t mind random comments on things you post. That’s your opinion. My opinion is that things like “omg crying” or “oh wow so hot” can go in the tags. They don’t further the point of the post or help it. When people reblog my stuff and add random comments do I get upset or angry? No. I’m just thrilled that they reblogged my stuff. If I’m reblogging a post that has a ton of random comments, I’ll usually just reblog straight from the source. Simple as that. No hurt feelings. 

For what it’s worth, I messaged the person that posted that long response to me and explained myself further, and she explained herself. We had a civil exchange and can both see each other’s points. It’s nice when people can do that, rather than send anon messages accusing people of not caring about their followers because they dared to have a strong opinion about something.

I’m perfectly willing to continue this conversation, if you’d like to message me non-anon.

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I completely agree that it's your right to say that putting 'omfg' type comments. I personally don't really care either way. I put those comments in tags myself, and I will delete them from posts when I reblog. But whatever. My problem with the OP on that post is that it sounds so patronizingly condescending. A bit 'I am better than you because I don't do this.' THAT's what I don't like about that post, not the opinion itself :)
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Yeah, you’re right. The OP’s comment does come off a little holier-than-thou. But the sentiment is there. And I’ve explained my personal views on the matter. I find those comments useless and annoying. My solution is usually to just reblog from the source. Simple as that.

If anyone has any further messages about this, please send them non-anon so I can answer privately :)

lol @ your tag post i have never even remotely thought of unfollowing you
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And I very much appreciate that, anon :) I lost quite a few after my last couple posts.

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steampunkwyn:

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You think you’re contributing, but you’re not.

Okay but here is the thing.  I object, on principle, to the idea of silencing people and discouraging them from adding their comments to a post, just because it might annoy somebody to have them there.  If your comments are offensive, sure, don’t add them.  But you know what?  You shouldn’t be saying offensive shit anyway, so that’s kind of moot.  But I think adding not-very-insightful comments to a post (and, I mean, Tumblr is designed so that we can add comments to posts, that’s how it works) is inherently less damaging than telling other users their contributions are worthless.  I think that is especially true given how strongly Tumblr’s user demographic skews toward people who are already in some ways disenfranchised and/or marginalized in the public sphere: women, particularly young women, and lgbts.  Maybe also PoCs, although I don’t know the race/ethnic identities of enough of the people I interact with on here to really make a strong argument for that one.  

Telling other people their contributions not only don’t matter, but are actively unwanted, is really rude.  It is also potentially damaging, and particularly to people who have enough shit to get through in their daily lives - which, in case you were wondering, is basically all of us.  

I would much rather see several dozen not-that-interesting comments on a post than one telling other users how unwanted their participation in what is inherently a communal activity (reblogging) is. 

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